Love Your Enemies.
“What is the hardest thing about following Jesus?” Rolf Jacobson asked his confirmation students. “Loving your enemies,” one of the students replied. Rolf is now a professor at Luther Seminary but as he reflected on today’s Gospel in Luther’s podcast, he said that answer has stuck with him… because he thinks the student got it right. Jesus’ teaching to: “Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you” sounds not only impossible but unwise and unsafe.1
It's also uniquely Jesus. Most of what Jesus teaches can be found in the Hebrew Scriptures, our Old Testament. Most of the world religions promote love – love yourself, the neighbor and the stranger; treat others as you would have them treat you; follow the Golden Rule. But no one else asks you to love your enemy or to do good to those who hate or to bless those who curse or to pray for those who hurt you. This only comes from Jesus who instructs his followers – then and now – to be merciful just as God is merciful.
Our reading from Genesis tells a piece of Joseph’s story. You may remember that Joseph was the favorite son of Jacob. Jacob had twelve sons but Joseph was his favorite. As you can imagine, this didn’t sit well with the older 10 brothers – who were half-brothers. It probably didn’t help that Joseph shared his dreams of them bowing down to him. And so, family dynamics being what they were, it probably shouldn’t have come as a surprise that the brothers turned against Joseph. They were about to kill him when some Egyptian slave traders came by – and they sold him into slavery instead.
However, God was with Joseph and eventually, after interpreting the Pharoah’s dreams about 7 years of feast and 7 years of famine, he became Pharoah’s right hand. As Joseph had predicted, there were 7 good years. Joseph managed the grain and built big silos to preserve it for the 7 years of famine to come. And the 7 years of famine did come and it affected all of the land – not just Egypt.
And this is why Joseph’s brothers had come to Egypt. The word was out that Egypt had food. And so they came. This wasn’t their first visit. They had come before – and Joseph had seen them and had put them through a few tests to see if they were still the cruel hard-hearted people that had sold him into slavery – or if they had changed. The brothers passed the test by protecting the youngest brother, Benjamin, who was Joseph’s full brother, and by clearly caring for their father and each other. And so Joseph reveals himself to them. Notice their first response is not joy – but fear. Joseph is in a position of power. He could have chosen to follow the rule: an eye for an eye and sold them into slavery. He could have chosen retribution and retaliation. He could have had them killed.
Instead, Joseph chooses forgiveness and reconciliation. But not before speaking the truth to them about the harm that they had done. He does not let his brothers off the hook. Also, notice who Joseph credits for his current status. Joseph doesn’t say it was because of his own wisdom that he ended up as Pharoah’s grain czar. Instead, he shares the way that God has worked through this evil, cruel act of his brothers to not only preserve his life but to put him in a position to protect the life of the whole tribe. Joseph later says that it was God who was at work in his life for good – even though they intended it for harm.
Joseph was in a position of power when he offered forgiveness, reconciliation and literally the bread of life to his brothers. But not everyone who suffers abuse or cruelty is in a position of power. Too often, victims of abuse, often but not only women, have been told to forgive an abusive partner and to just forget and forgive. But without the truth telling, and the recognition by the abuser – the one causing harm - that what was done was wrong, there is little likelihood that the situation will change, especially if the abuser still has power. Reconciliation is not always possible or even wise.
And yet, Jesus gives us this seemingly impossible task: “love your enemies, do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return… be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.” The confirmation student is right: This is hard. And yet… we can’t just dismiss it – because this it is the way of Jesus, this is the way of God.
A pastor colleague of mine has shared publicly a story of a hard time in her life – I’ll call her Jane. She had just gone through a rough, messy divorce in which her now ex-husband had left her and their children and refused to pay any alimony and was basically being a jerk. Jane was spitting angry, resentful and full of hatred for what he had done to her and their children. She was so mad that she couldn’t sleep, she couldn’t eat, she couldn’t even think; her life was miserable.
Finally, she went to another pastor I’ll call her Sophia because Sophia means “wisdom.” Jane told Sophia the story and then said, “Help me. I can’t live like this. I feel as if I’m carrying a rock of anger in the pit of my stomach and I don’t even like who I’ve become.” Sophia was compassionate and listened carefully. And then she asked Jane, what would you want in your life? What would you hope for in your life? Jane thought for a moment and then said, “I want to not have to worry about where the next meal is coming from; I want to love and be loved, to share joy and to be at peace.”
Sophia looked at her with eyes of compassion and said, “I have an idea for you. But it is not going to be easy – and it’s going to take 30 days.” Jane, with a sigh of disappointment said, “Sure. I can do anything for 30 days. What is it?”
Sophia said, “OK. For the next 30 days, I want you to pray for all of those things that you named – for your Ex. Pray for him, that he have financial stability, love, and live with joy and peace.”
Jane said, “Those are the things I want for me – not for him. But… I don’t want him I know Jesus said to ‘love our enemies’. I don’t like it. But I said I would it so I’ll do it.” And she did. For the first 10 days, she prayed with clenched teeth: “God give him love, financial stability and let him live with joy and peace.” For the next 10 days, she found herself rolling her eyes and saying, “God give him financial stability, love and let him live with joy and peace” but found herself saying it without so much anger. By the time she reached day 30, she had come to peace with realizing that she really did wish for him –financial stability, love, peace, and joy. Her life was still challenging as a single mom. But the heavy rock that she was carrying in the pit of her stomach was gone. And she was able to move forward with her life.
“Love your enemies, do good… be merciful.” These are challenging words at any time. But they are perhaps even more important for us to hear now, as our civic life is becoming more and more polarized with fewer people willing to listen to the other or to compromise or to work for the common good. Jesus calls us, as Christians, as followers of Jesus, to be different. We are to follow the hard but true words of Jesus: Love your enemies, pray for them, forgive as you have been forgiven. These are not easy.But, at least in this place, as brothers and sisters in Christ, we have a community of grace in which we can practice speaking words with kindness, praying for others with whom we disagree, and following in the way of Jesus, who is our Savior and Lord. Thanks be to God, Amen.
1 Workingpreacher.com, Rev. Rolf Jacobson with workingpreacher podcast
February 23, 2025 + Faith-Lilac Way + Pastor Pam Stalheim Lane